Tuesday, September 29, 2020

Ready or Not, It's a New Season

The "It's a Girl" sign posted in your front yard is there to greet you as you and your 6-pound, pink blanket-cocooned bundle of joy arrive home two days after her birth.  As you step out of the car and lift your new little daughter from her mandatory car seat, a myriad of emotions overwhelms you---happiness, excitement, nervousness, fear, panic even.  It's your first baby, and you have absolutely no idea what to do.  How could you?  You never even babysat anyone under the age of five.




Somehow, though, you figure things out, and you fall into a routine.  You say goodbye to the career you held for the past ten years, opting instead to stay home with your little girl.  The days turn into weeks, then into months.  You have another child---this time, a son.  The months soon become years, and you are totally embracing your job.  You love your children with everything in you, and you devote your whole life to raising them, even choosing to homeschool them.  The years become decades, and even though you're often exhausted and in desperate need of some "me" time, you're loving every single minute of your life as a stay-at-home/homeschooling mom; in fact, you don't want to ever do anything different with your time.


Ah, but then it happens...your beloved children grow up.  They finish high school.  They move into their twenties.  They get jobs.  They get married.  And you find yourself out of a job.



That's the thing...the goal of motherhood is to work yourself out of a job.  We want our children to become functioning, independent adults, don't we?  We want them to leave our homes and to develop lives of their own, right?  We want to see them fly.  Yet, it's sad for us when they do, for it brings an end to a time we've loved so much.  We moms are left floundering, not knowing what purposeful thing to do with the rest of our lives.

That's how it was for me anyway.  Maybe some moms have excitedly embraced the empty nest season and its large chunk of independence, but not this gal.  In fact, I dreaded it as one might dread a terminal illness.  For years, I agonized over how rapidly that season was approaching, and I longed to do something---anything---to turn back time, or at least slow it down. 

However, God's Word tells us that "to everything, there is a season" (Ecclesiastes 3:1), and that includes motherhood.  Just as fall always gives way to winter---whether we want it to or not---there was absolutely no stopping this season of life from arriving on my doorstep.  Like it or not, I simply had to transition to what I now was---a mid-life mom, with independent, twenty-something children.

And you know what, now that I've stopped fighting the inevitable, and instead have chosen to embrace it, I have found that this, too, is a beautiful season of life.  I will always cherish the days of having little ones in my home and count them among the happiest days of my life, but I am fully convinced that God has beauty and  joy for me in this season as well.

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15 comments:

  1. You have two beautiful children!! You are so right... a time for every season!! Great post!

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    1. Thank you for stopping by, Terri! I missed you during my "blog break."

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  2. It is a beautiful season of life. Embrace it.

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  3. Your children are beautiful. I know how you feel... I miss my grocery store trips with my daughters so much. I do have our youngest living here but she is very much the adult and so busy with two jobs...So, that leaves me in the cold. ...I soooo understand how you feel.

    One thing we can rest in, and that is we gave our all. : ) ...And we will continue to do just that, right? *big smile*

    It's so nice to communicate here on blogger with someone with so much in common. I also homeschooled and what beautiful memories I have of that, and now I still homeschool myself as I'm sure you do too. And there are times when I'm still sharing wisdom from my hidden grey hair with the kids.

    I enjoyed your poignant memoir here, just lovely.

    (((hugs))) ~Amelia

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    1. Amelia, thank you for your lovely comment. You're totally right...I will continue to put my all into being a loving mother. For even adult children still need their moms....just in a different way than when they were little. I loved homeschooling for many reasons, one of which was the education I was getting myself. I love learning, even at the advanced age of 59!!

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  4. I'm right here with you... my 3 kids all in their twenties and we have an empty nest! I'm embracing this season and cherishing all those sweet childhood memories, too! Stopping by from #raralinkup

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    1. Laura, isn't it mind-boggling to think that you are a mom of twenty-somethings? It is for me at least. It seems like just yesterday, they were little. Truly, time flies!! thanks for stopping by from the link-up. I got your latest update in my email yesterday. Haven't had time to read it yet, though.

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  5. This is beautiful perspective. I don't like seeing how fast time flies. But then I look at my mom and how involved she is still in mothering me and being a grandmother and serving others, and I think you're right...there's a season for everything. Each season has it's beauty. Thank you for sharing this. I'm visiting today from the instaencouragements link up. Have a great day!

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    1. Marielle, as a mom of little ones, you are knee-deep in the busyness that goes along with that season. I know it's an exhausting, but trust me, your little ones will be grown up before you realize it. May you cherish every moment you have with them! Thank you for stopping by from the link-up. I will be visiting you shortly.

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  6. I love this.
    The seasons go by so fast, dont they? .... but there's blessings in the ones we lave & the ones ahead

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    1. Indeed, they fly by, Rebecca. I'm not sure how days can drag, but years and seasons fly! Thank you so much for visiting. I love blogging too much to stay away for long...but I still steadfastly refuse to reactive my Facebook account. The ugliness there overwhelms me.

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  7. I remember the day my eldest moved out. It surprised me how much the transition affected me! By the time the third moved out, I was a little more used to it! I am so glad for the days I had them home as children, as you are, and understand the seasons do change. One day they'll be taking care of me. Life is circle of care, isn't it?

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    1. Lynn, thank you for visiting and for taking the time to leave me a comment. I always knew the transition to the empty nest would be difficult for me. The thing that surprises me is that I have become content and happy in this season.

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  8. The photo of you with your newborn could have been pulled from my own photo albums. :) This: "I am fully convinced that God has beauty and joy for me in this season as well." Yes, He does!

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