Monday, September 14, 2020

Not Always Blood

A few years ago, a gal from our church was put on bed rest with a difficult pregnancy.  With three children ranging from 3 to 11, being down for several months definitely made for some challenges for this sweet lady and her family.   Without question, they were in need of some tangible help.  It wouldn't have been enough to say "I'll be praying that everything works out" and then not do anything practical to help her. (James 2:15, 16 )  Yes, this family needed prayer, but they also needed some daily assistance.

Though the family went to our church, I barely knew them.  Sure, I knew who they were, but with the mom being 20 years younger than I and the two of us being in different seasons of life, our paths rarely crossed.  However, they lived close to us, and it was in my power to help.  God put upon my heart to take a meal to their family on a regular basis throughout the remainder of her pregnancy.




Now, I could have said, "Really, God?  Surely you don't want me to do that.  I mean, I don't really know her."  But knowing that I would have no peace if I sought to run from what God had put upon my heart, I stepped out in obedience.  I took their family a meal pretty much once a week for about three months.  As I popped by each week, I got to know the kids . . . and I got to know the mom.  I prayed with her and for her, and I encouraged her with cards.  A friendship sprang up between us, and with each visit, it blossomed and grew.  And not just between her and me, but between every member of both our families.  Their family has become very dear to us, and we get together with them often. We love them deeply, and they love us.  In fact, not long ago, Natalie said to me, "You know, family's not always blood.  Your family is like family to us."

Wow, what a gift!  For the price of a few meals, I received a family!  Talk about receiving far more than I gave!  Plus, isn't the very way a Titus 2 ministry begins!

Beautiful things can happen when you reach out to others!


Linking up with:



21 comments:

  1. Now that is a life of hospitality! Wow, Patti. I want to be more like you. I too often underestimate my meals when it's time to share them with others, but I'm guessing many people would appreciate even a plain meal from me versus having to make one themselves if they're ill.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yes, Lisa, they would indeed. The meals I took to this family were not fancy---taco salad, sloppy joes, chicken casserole, cut veggies and ranch dip, cut fruit. It's not the meal itself that matters---it's the help that's given.

      Delete
  2. Morning Patti,
    Loved you wonderful true story. That is so true how we can make friends in the most unsuspecting ways, when we reach out in love. Thanks for sharing that great reminder.
    We were excited to get your email at our card shop, and was wanting to make sure you got our return email, cause sometimes things do go to spam..........
    Anyway, hope you are all doing well hon. What is your weather like out there? Still hot as blue blazes here. lol
    Have a blessed week hon,
    Nellie

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Your email did go to spam...but now that I know about it, I can read it. We aren't horribly hot, but due to fires in California and Oregon, our air quality is horrible. It's pretty much like this every August. Gabrielle and I were talking recently, and she mentioned that August is her least favorite month here...it's always smoky and generally very hot.

      Delete
  3. So true, family isn't always blood. Your actions of taking a meal over weekly is how I believe God calls us to live. If we see our brother or sister in need and we can help, why not? And look at the reward you received on the other side simply by sharing a meal. May God continue to richly bless you and your friendship with Natalie.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yvonne, our family has also seen others giving to us when in need. Back in 2004, my husband was out of work, and a beautiful Christian family did more than just pray for us---the husband of the family hired my husband to do construction work with him which he waited on a job in his field. They could have said, "We'll be praying that a job opens up" and done nothing more. But they knew we needed practical help, so they gave it! Thank you for stopping by!

      Delete
  4. Love this testimony, so much fits in with my theme of the moment - that real encouragement is more in our actions than in our words - thank you for sharing!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for visiting, Sharon. You and I are definitely on the same page with our writing this week. It's all about being available to what The Holy Spirit puts on our hearts, isn't it?

      Delete
  5. This is a great example of how the Lord calls us to live and love. Thanks for sharing this. It provokes us all to consider those He places before us that we might let our heads get in the way of His loving and serving through us.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for visiting, Pam. Yes, love isn't just words, is it? Our actions back up our words for sure!

      Delete
  6. What a sweet story! God is so good to us that way....when we simply walk in obedience! I remember "way back in the day" being on bedrest with my pregnancy. I think about those who stepped in "to be like family" when my own relatives lived states away. Thanks for sharing!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Jennifer, I live in Boise, Idaho, which is one of the fastest-growing areas of the country right now. Seems like the whole world is moving here, and most people doing so are leaving extended family behind. So, since most of us don't have family here, we are open and willing to being family to one another.

      Delete
  7. It is so important to bridge the generations and make those connections! I have been so blessed by relationships with older women who became my spiritual moms! I love that you did that - that you took the meal and made a life-changing connection!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Maryleigh, when I was a young mom, I didn't have a spiritual mother. Most of the older women in the church I attended didn't seem to be interested in younger moms---to be fair, though, maybe the young moms gave off the impression of being uninterested in them. At any rate, I didn't see or experience Titus 2 women. I think that is a huge void in the church, so I have been purposeful about seeking out younger women. I remember how I was a young mom, so I do realize not all young women are interested in inter-generational friendship.

      Delete
  8. I love this story and have lived it on both ends. A dear godly woman who helped me as a young mum is now quite elderly and the tables are turned. I love that we are called both to give and to receive.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Michele, that is very neat. It's kind of how we are to be with our own parents---they cared for us when we were young and needy, and we care for them as they age. Thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to leave me a comment.

      Delete
  9. Those God nudges are the best! I can question them and then miss out on the blessing they give to others and self. Thanks for sharing your story reminding me how important it is to be still and listen and obey His voice.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yes, Lynn, you are so right. When God prompts us to do something out of our "norm," we can question, "Surely, you don't mean that. I must not have heard right." But when we do step out, it is such a blessing. Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to leave me a comment.

      Delete
  10. Oh that is so wonderful Patti, I'm so glad to hear how you reached out, you are a Gem! It's true, many times friends are more like family then family. I've found that out when going through things or even when our girls got married. I was on bedrest for five months my last pregnancy and oh how I know your sweet friend soooo appreciated your meal and your company! And it probably blew her mind that she didn't even know you that good! (yet!) *big smile*

    So happy to hear that you heard the Holy Spirit's whisper to help that precious family! What a Gift! The true Body of Christ.

    Hugs to you! Have a sweet evening dear Patti!

    ReplyDelete
  11. This was wonderful to read - bless you for listening to the Lord. I was also taken really ill last year and I was (surprised and) really touched by the outpouring of love from the church - many kindhearted people who took it upon themselves to cook for me and mine. Your friend Natalie is so right, "family's not always blood" and we get so much more back when we obey God even if it's not really in line with our plans. I pray for grace to listen and obey as you did.

    ReplyDelete
  12. What a beautiful story, Patti! It definitely encourages me to be on the lookout for more opportunities where I can get involved in someone else's life. :-)

    ReplyDelete

Thank you so much for stopping by and for taking the time to leave me a comment. Your visit beautifies my day!