Monday, August 31, 2020

Truth That Comforts

Yesterday was my mother-in-law's birthday---her 86th.  We didn't celebrate with her, though, because she is no longer with us.  She departed this world back in 2018.  

This year marked the third August 30th since Mom's passing, and each one has been hard.  I miss her so much.




While mothers-in-law often get a bad rap, mine was a gem.  No, she wasn't perfect, and we did have occasional struggles---but don't all relationships have struggles?  However, unkind words and bad feelings between us never lasted long, and I always knew that she loved me and considered me a daughter.  Just as I considered her a mother; in fact, for the last dozen years of her life, I called her "mom."



I first met Mom in the spring of  1985, when Gary and I were dating, and her love for me was immediate and unconditional.  She welcomed me into the family with open arms.



Early in my mothering years, Mom said to me the words that would change my life and help me to get my priorities in order.  I had been stressing about the impossibility of keeping my house in its before-children, magazine-ready condition.  She grabbed hold of my hands, looked me in the eye, and whispered, "Relax, Patti.  A perfect house can't say "I love you."

Mom's wise words helped me to remember what was most important---loving my husband and children, not having the best decorated, most well-kept house on the block.  I took her words to heart, and while my house was never dirty, I became comfortable with it not being "magazine worthy."


Mom with Gabrielle and Garrett (her #3 and #4 grandchildren)

 Mom was a totally amazing grandmother (Nana), and Gabrielle and Garrett were blessed to have had her as part of their lives.  Until our move to Idaho, we were less than an hour from Mom and Dad, so visits to their house were regular.  Gabrielle and Garrett always loved going there.  Mom didn't mind if they dragged out every item in her pantry so they could play store.  She didn't mind if they built forts in the living room.  And she didn't mind if they finger-painted all over the bathtub wall.  Mom was totally all about having fun with her grandchildren.  Truly, she left them a legacy of love. 



Mom had made a tux for Gary's prom way back in the 70's, and we surprised her by having Garrett wear it to their 50th anniversary party.  It was a very big on him, but Mom was touched by the gesture.



  This precious woman served Jesus and her family well.  I will love and miss her always!  In the midst of my sadness, though, I am comforted by the truth of the Scriptures.




   I will see Mom again.  I am certain of that!  She trusted in Jesus, and so do I. And for those who trust in Him, there is the promise of Heaven and eternal life with our loved ones.  And that truth brings hope and joy even in the midst of sadness.


Linking to:

Grace & Truth, Heart Encouragement, InstaEncouragements Legacy Link-up, Let's Have Coffee, Purposeful Faith, Recharge Wednesday, Remember Me MondayTell His Story

26 comments:

  1. A beautiful tribute to your mother ...

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  2. What a lovely tribute...truly remarkable, smiles. Have a beautiful day, friend.

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  3. We are both feeling the love from our Mother and Mother-in-law, Patti. It's so nice that you had a close relationship with yours. I did as well, even though we didn't agree on everything, and when it came to her 7 sons, she was partial to them haha. But I loved her dearly. These are treasured family photos, ones you can look on for years to come. I love the story of your children going inside grandma's pantry and bringing everything out to play store. And building forts in the living room. I'm glad you're back, and your blog name, 'Clothed with Joy' is just perfect.

    ~Sheri

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    1. Thank you for visiting, Sheri, and for your kind comment. I had made my blogging return with a different blog name, but then, last week I was praying for a friend, asking the Lord to remove her sackcloth and clothe her with joy. He had SO done that for me in this empty nest season that I had dreaded so much, and I realized it was indeed the perfect name for my blog. I'm so glad you popped by!

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  4. Hi Patti,
    What a lovely tribute to your Mom-in-love......she sounds like a wonderful woman. and Yes, all relationships have struggles at times.
    Thanks for coming by, it was so good to hear from you. I saw your other message and just never got around to answering, as we have a lot going on right now. Glad things seem to be going well for you and yours.
    Don't know if you noticed on my sidebar that we started a downloadable greeting card business or not, but
    you get 5 free cards, so check us out.
    Are you guys retired yet? and how are things out there with the covid stuff? We have opened up some stuff
    restaurant are at half capacity and they are doing lots of take out, all our stores close by 8:30, some earlier, Publix belief it or not stays open the latest....till 9 pm. Seems like a ghost town after 9, so
    strange but so good in other ways. Glad that those folks are home with their families rather than having to work so late. We are living in very interesting times and we need to keep watching the skies for I think our redemption might be drawing nigh sooner that we might think.
    Take care sweetie, and glad to see you are back again.
    Love ya, Nellie

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    1. Nellie, thank you so much for stopping by. It's always a delight to see your beautiful smile and uplifting words in the comments of my blog! I guess I am retired---Garrett finished high school in 2010, so I've been out of a job for 10 years. Gary is still working and has no plans to retire---he really loves his job, and he's in good health, so he isn't even thinking about retiring right now. Some things are normal here, some things are not. Like no BSU football this fall. Our church hasn't even been meeting regularly, as we lease city property, and the city has shut down groups of more than 10 for right now. Thanks for the heads-up about your card shop. I will check it out!

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  5. What a nice tribute to your mother in law. I had a good relationship with my mother in law too. She passed 3 years ago. I lost my mom in 2010 from Alzheimers and I miss her a lot too. Thankfully we will see them again someday!

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    1. Susan, thank you for stopping by. It's nice to meet you. I'm sorry you have lost both your moms. I do still have mine. She is in good health, so I am hopeful of having her many years yet.

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  6. This is a beautiful testimony to your MIL (Mom). She sounds like she was a wonderful woman. The legacy that she created is one that is evident in you. Thank you for sharing this story with us.

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  7. Thank you for sharing her wise words, "A perfect house can't say "I love you." I think that needs to be made into artwork!

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    1. Jerralea, thank you for stopping by. Yes, those words would make a great art print, wouldn't they?

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  8. I won the mother-in-law lottery, too, and her birthday is this month. I really enjoyed reading this tribute. My mother-in-law has been in heaven for 20 years, but I still miss her.

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    1. Michele, thank you so much for stopping by and reading this tribute to my precious mother-in-law. How wonderful that we both had wonderful mothers-in-law, and hopefully, we are being wonderful mothers-in-law to our own children's spouses as well. Time dulls the ache of loss, but we never really stop missing those we loved, do we?

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  9. What a beautiful tribute to your mother-in-law. It encourages me to strive to be the same. Thank you for sharing her life and your relationship with us. Maree

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    1. Thank you, Maree, for visiting and for taking the time to comment. I'm blessed---not only was my mother-in-law a great example of a mother-in-law, but both my grandmothers were as well. I hope my son-in-law can say the same about me!

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  10. She sounds like an amazing woman! Thankfully my m-i-l is still alive. She turned 81 this year but doesn't seem a day over 50. We haven't been able to spend as much time together since the pandemic. I'll be glad when this is over so we can resume normal visits; I don't want to lose any more time than we have to. She's always treated me so well!

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    1. Lisa, I'm so glad that you still have your mother-in-law and that you have a great relationship with her. Yes, this pandemic has really put the brakes on visits with family. We haven't seen my FIL since Mom's funeral 2 years ago. We had hoped to get down to see him this year (Florida), but covid has put a halt to that plan.

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  11. A perfect house cannot say 'I love you' - what a wonderful way to put our priorities back in order! Your mother-in-love sounds like a gem, thank you for sharing. Love never ends. Blessings, Sarah

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    1. She was indeed a gem, Sarah, and I miss her a lot. There are so many times I want to pick up the phone and call her, just to tell her something. Then I remember I can't, and I feel sad all over again.

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  12. What a beautiful tribute to your dear Mother-in-law. It's been almost 20 years since my MIL went to Heaven, but I still miss her too. I have inherited the "Grandma Gilbert" title now, and I pray that I pass along the great legacy of loving that my children were blessed with from her heart. Blessings and prayers for you today.

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    1. Bettie, in high school I had a friend whose last name was Gilbert, and her mom was Bette. Spelled a bit differently than you, but a Bettie Gilbert nonetheless. I feel the same way---I'm not a grandma yet, but I have my mother-in-law's example and my own 2 grandmothers of how to be a loving one.

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  13. You were certainly blessed to have that kind of relationship with your mil. Visiting you from the legacy link up. laurensparks.net

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  14. You are right. mother in laws get a bad rap but most of them are jewels. great tribute to your MIL

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